Life Design & Rethinking Retirement: Not the End, But the Beginning

I’ve always been fascinated by retirement.

Not because I’m trying to escape work — I actually love what I do — but because I see it as one of the few culturally sanctioned opportunities to completely redesign your life. For someone who’s spent a career immersed in change work, that’s my siren-call.

What would it mean to reach a point where you could say: Now, I live by no one else’s script but my own?

Until recently, that question was mostly reserved for a select few. Aside from the odd lottery winner, it was for those had earned a pension, or workers well into their sixties. Retirement was something you socked away money for, not something you designed.

But over the last decade, the FIRE (Financial Independence, Retire Early) movement has reshaped the conversation. And it’s not just about money — though money is the mechanism. At its best, FIRE is about reclaiming time, autonomy, and alignment. It’s about front loading effort and intention so that, sooner than expected, you can step into a life that feels deeply your own.

I recently had the chance to speak with Jason and Daravy, a couple who retired in their 30s. They didn’t do it through flashy investments or lucky breaks — they did it by making thoughtful trade-offs, living below their means, and steadily building a life that matched their values.

What stood out wasn’t just what they achieved, but how they thought about what mattered.

From Financial Strategy to Life Design

Here’s what you need to know up front: Jason and Daravy didn’t retire because they hated work. They weren’t burned out, fleeing, or hoping to reinvent themselves. They were building toward something they could already name.

They wanted time. Flexibility. The ability to treat a Tuesday like a blank canvas. They weren’t trying to stop working — they were trying to stop working on other people’s terms.

And so, they saved. They invested. They practiced restraint. And when the time came, they stepped into their vision not as a leap of faith, but as a next logical step.

They didn’t see retirement as an end. They saw it as a creative beginning.

The Myth of “Someday”

One thing I see in so many of my coaching clients is the belief that somewhere out there is a point at which things will finally click into place. The right body weight. The right amount in the bank. The right season of life. The right credentials.

This is an important idea that I discussed with Alison previously on the podcast, and which I was reminded again in talking with Jason and Daravy: there is no finish line that gives you permission to start being the person you want to be.

You either design around your values now, or you keep chasing circumstances that may never arrive or deliver what you're truly seeking.

Change Doesn’t Start With a Tactic — It Starts With a Truth

So often, when we talk about big life transitions, the conversation jumps straight to tactics: savings plans, productivity tips, new job titles. But change — real, sustaining change — starts from the inside.

It starts with a reckoning: What do I actually want more of in my life? Why is this important to me? What would it look like if I choose not live in alignment to my truth?

For Daravy, the answer was shaped by growing up in Cambodia with a deep value on resourcefulness. That value never left her. Instead, it evolved. Frugality became freedom. Simplicity became agency. She carried the lessons of her past into the design of a life that feels free, meaningful, and self-directed.

That’s what adherents to the FIRE movement are often really talking about when they say “early retirement” — not a number, but a vision of what life can be. Not a budget, but a belief.

Creative Leaps, and the Margin to Make Them

In our conversation, their move into early retirement was framed as a “creative leap.” I keep thinking about that phrase. A creative leap doesn’t mean reckless. It means making a bold move that reflects your inner architecture — your hopes, your values, your willingness to live differently.

And they did.

They didn’t follow a blueprint. They built one. And they did so with enough margin — financially, yes, but also emotionally and psychologically — to pivot if things changed.

This is a concept I talk about often in coaching: margin. The space between your current capacity and your envisioned life. Many people are living right up against their edge, with no room to reflect, recalibrate, or take a risk. Jason and Daravy built margin on purpose. And it’s allowed them to stay flexible, curious, and connected to their goals for nearly a decade.

How This Translates to Any Change

You may not be chasing early retirement, and that’s fine. What do you want for your life?

At any stage, we’re all in the business of life design. And the quality of that design depends less on tactics and more on clarity.

Here are three questions I invite you to ask — whether you're already navigating a change or quietly craving one:

1. Are your values driving your decisions — or just decorating them?

It’s easy to say you value freedom or purpose. But are your calendar, spending, and relationships organized around those things?

2. Are you designing from fear or love?

Fear can be a useful signal, but it makes for a lousy architect. Love leads to curiosity, experimentation, and growth.

3. How can you let others' lifestyle choices inspire you — without using them as a measuring stick?

Jason and Daravy’s story is theirs. Let it open your imagination, not define your path or worth.

Retirement — like any big change — isn’t about exiting. It’s about entering the next chapter of the life story you are authoring.

It’s a chance to ask: If I could build a life that aligned more deeply with who I am…  where would I begin?

That’s the work I help people do every day.

If you’re ready to step into that kind of clarity, I’d love to support your next chapter.

And if you’re curious to learn more, check out Jason and Daravy’s financial education and travel channels. (@40NorthFinances and @40NorthTravels on all socials)

Their life isn’t a fantasy. It’s a reminder that with enough vision, and enough margin, change becomes not only possible, but sustainable.